Recently, a reader desuscribio is on my list of mails. She wrote me a paragraph describing what annoyed her, that she felt overwhelmed and the annoying thing that was, basically, because I’m not doing things his way. A few years ago, this rejection would have broken my heart. (It is shameful, Yes, but I am very sensitive). Speaking seriously, an anonymous letter like that would have ruined my month! I felt the same way when he rejected me a man that didn’t.
If he does not call me, took me it as something personal. What could you have done different? What you are looking for I’m not? Was it something I said? (It was so selfish unknowingly thinking that everything had to do with me) He then swore that never again I would put in a place where you could feel me wounded and rejected again. Does this sound familiar? Now I’m more ready. I am more intelligent (thank God). Now, when I reject, I say something like, see you, bye. I wish you well. Then I am grateful the fact that this person is autoelimine of my life (obviously isn’t one of mine) and leave the place to someone that it is (though sometimes still feel a blow in the stomach). Your people you can find.
If you like your people as you are, like what give you, then they will stay with you. Those who will not, go. Rarely is personal but sometimes feels as if it were. Here are my three phases of rejection: 1.-Auch! Aww! That hurt. What the hell happened? Did I missed something? Where was it? Like to say do not go well, let’s talk. Let’s try to fix it. Often this is not a possibility. Many times you have no clue what the other person is thinking. Often only goes and you never know more than him. Do then what? It depends on you making peace with yourself. If someone leaves you and you don’t have no idea why, most likely not have to do with you. It has to do with something that is failing or unwilling. And if you don’t want to talk about it, definitely It is not personal. It has to do with him. 2 Okay. Understood. I accept that you went. I admit that I did not like you wanted to (whatever). I do not deliberately started against you, I was just being myself and doing things my way. As I do not read minds, it is the best I can do. We are not compatible. We don’t want the same things. We do not understand us. We are in different places, bla, bla, bla, bla. And that’s okay. Life goes on. If you do not want to be with me, I’ll find others Yes. 3 Ciao! See you, bye. I wish you the best. (Do this with a smile on your lips!) The universe abhors a vacuum. When someone goes, always enters another person. Someone more appropriate for you. People like you. They will find each other. That he will create the place for that! This is good news! Life gives you the opportunity to build with your own people and let go of those who are not. Sometimes it’s by choice. Sometimes it is not. In any case, do your best to not take it personally and use it as a filter that takes you toward those who your want.